I first heard of the book Scary Close by Donald Miller when a friend posted this video on his Facebook. It intrigued me enough to get the book and I’m so glad that I did.
Scary Close takes a real and refreshing look at vulnerability and intimacy. Sprinkled with humor and situations that we can all relate to, this is a book that I think every body should read. Here is a quote that made me laugh and then go back and write it down because I am there. I feel like the unhealthy prideful tower I’m trying to build gets knocked down constantly as a mom of 3, yet I keep trying to build it back up.
“Relationships matter. God doesn’t give us crying, pooping children because he wants to advance our careers. He gives them to us for the same reason he confused language at the Tower of Babel, to create chaos & deter us from investing too much energy in the gluttonous idols of self-absorption.”
In the garden of Eden, Adam and Eve put on clothes to cover their shame of sin. We do the same thing. We make clothes of deceit (things that we think people want us to be) and we layer them on, thickly, to cover our nakedness. But who told us that we needed these clothes? (This is strictly a spiritual analogy, not an encouragement to become nudists) In this book, Miller takes off his mask and tackles the subjects head on. He is open, honest and vulnerable with his journey. He takes you through the dirty and gritty parts of how we learn to hide and helps you see the other side, the healthy and real side.
Here is another quote that I thought was good, as one who struggles with always wanting control. “The root of sin is the desire for control. And the root of control is fear. You can’t control somebody and have intimacy with them at the same time. They may stay because they fear you, but true love casts out fear. Perhaps that’s another reason true intimacy is so frightening. It’s the one thing we all want and must give up control to get.”
Seriously. Get this book, read it and then share it. It was a quick and easy read and deals with a topic that affects you and everyone around you. Who are you when you drop the act and take off the mask? Who are you when you peel away the layers of shame and your insecurities?
BookLook Bloggers has provided me with a free copy of this book for review purposes, but my thoughts and opinions are my own.